Where Are All The Good Men!

I've been watching Steve Harvey make the rounds on day time TV, promoting his book Act Like A Lady Think Like A Man. The book tackles issues related to women, men, & relationships.
In each of his interviews, one question seemed to continually surface. That question... Where are all the good men? Honestly, I did not know that women were still trying to answer this age-old question. Really, I didn’t!

Now, I am no Steve Harvey but I do have a good…NO…A GREAT MAN. So, do you mind if I share what worked for me? Well, even if you do mind, I’m going to tell you anyway so keep reading.

Here's my two cents on "finding a good man." Like it, love it, or leave it!

1. First, you don’t go looking for a good man. You become a good woman and a good man will find you. The man that finds a wife finds a good thing.
   
2. Like attracts like. If you can’t find a good man, ask yourself what kind of woman am I and what can I do to be better. Not for a man, but for myself.
   
3. If you act like you don’t need a man, guess what….you won’t attract one.
   
4. If you aren’t running into "good men" then check your surroundings. What places are you frequenting in "search" of this good man?
   
5. If you spend every free moment with your girls, "they" become your good man. Get out and do something for yourself and by yourself.
   
6. Don’t measure your stock as a women by how good you look, what you have, how educated you are, or what you do. There are a lot of "average" women who have the good man you are looking to find. They got them not by the things I mentioned, they attracted them by being loving, considerate, humble, giving, respectful, confidant…get my drift.
   
7. Your good man may already be in your presence. Often times we overlook "good men" because they don’t meet certain requirements on our 12-page list. You’re not perfect so don’t expect your mate to be either.
   
8. Speaking of that 12-page list. To acquire a good man you may need to get realistic about what is important to you in "a good man." When you were 21 wanting a man that had nice hair or pretty teeth may have been cute. Now you need to really look at what is important to you. I am not asking you to settle, I am merely suggesting that you grow up a little. If his teeth are not perfect, try cosmetic surgery.
   
9. If you want a good man, get rid of the bad ones in your life. Many times we settle for average and "no good men" in hopes that a good one will come and sweep us off our feet. I don’t think so. In order to acquire a good man, he needs to find you single and available. Don’t hold on to a deadbeat thinking Prince Charming is going to come and save you. He’s not!
   
10. Finally, if you want a good man stop the game playing. It’s time to get real and be up front about your expectations in a relationship. When we pretend that we are just looking for a booty buddy, that is what we get. Know what you want from a relationship and don’t be afraid to put it on the table. A real man will respect you for that. If he is not on the same page, that is cool. Don’t waste your time. Bounce!
    

Happy March Fourth Day!

Today is March 4th. It is the only day of the year that is a command. The only day that is a call to action. That calling is to MARCH FORTH! When I think about marching forth I think about the goals and aspirations that I have in life. I think about my family, my husband and my daughter. I am reminded of the life that is ahead of me. I anticipate the joy, happiness, and success that are to come.

I think less about the mistakes that I have made in my past and more about the victories that are ahead of me. That is, IF I DON’T QUIT. If….I March Forth!

I’ve always believed that the past should be a place of reference not of residence. We should use our past to help us to March Forth not to stifle us from our future. Yet many times, we are so stagnated by those things that happened yesterday that we can’t even garner the strength to march forth into today ...or the next day for that matter. How do I know? Because I’ve been there.
Still, I am happy to say that every year on this day I remind myself that there is so much more out there for me... if I persevere.

Today, on March 4th, I encourage you to march forth to pursue your life long dreams, goals, and destiny. For some of us things may look bleak, but when you decide to act despite your situation, you acknowledge that you have the power to change your circumstances.

Today, I am marching forth toward all the great things that are ahead of me. I am deciding not to quit! What is it that you need to decide NOT to give up on today? What dream, project, or goal do you need to persevere toward today? Whatever it is, I encourage you to put on your marching boots and join me.

Happy March Fourth Day!